A Cali update

1.14.2013

As I sit here on my Dads couch watching Dr Phil and drinking a fantastic homemade (by Dad) latte, it occurred to me that I should update this blog.

We are in Orange County and having a great time. Apparently we brought a cold spell along with us though. I am ready for this California heat to show up! The news says the 70 degree weather will be back Wednesday. Thank goodness.

Eva is reconnecting with all of her Aunties and cousins. She remembered how much she loves her Papa and fit right back in with B's parents as well. She loves being around everyone and being the center of attention. It is so deeply fulfilling to be able to share her with all my loved ones.

There are lots of family issues going on. The most acute issue is that my Grandmother's (Mom's Mom) Alzheimer's disease has taken a scary turn and she has begun becoming aggressive, combative, and paranoid/fearful and has started trying to run away.

It sucks. There's no other way to say it. She doesn't remember anyone and she is acting out and doing things that SHE would never do. There are hard choices that need to be made.

We wish my Mom was around to deal with my Grandma. She would know what to do. She always knew how to handle hard situations. She would have been able to navigate this craptastic situation confidently and with grace.

Growing old is for the birds.

Has anyone dealt with progressing Alzheimer's? Any tips?

17 comments:

  1. Oh Jamie. I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother. My grandmother also dealt with that and said and did things that we knew were not characteristic of HER. It's a sad thing to witness. She and my grandfather eventually moved in with my aunt and then my grandfather passed. My aunt had a nurse care for her and watch over her during the day and then took over in the evenings. Praying for y'all because I know this cannot be an easy thing to figure out. :(

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  2. I'm so sorry for your struggle with Alzheimer's, I know how difficult and sad it can be to see someone change so much. I hope the rest of your trip is enjoyable. I am actually headed out to Anaheim on Thursday, so good to know the heat will be back by then!

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  3. I'm so sorry! I wish I had tips... I just can't imagine. Alzheimer's is one of my biggest fears (either having a loved one with it, or getting it myself...)

    Hang in there! Sounds like you all have a great support system in your family.

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  4. That is awful. That is the one fear that I have .. not remembering. It is such an ugly disease and it scares the crap out of me.
    I hope you get your warm weather...Thankfully Northern Cali is supposed to get a big jump too. I'm ready...it was 34 degrees when I went to the gym! Ugh!

    xoxo
    Lanaya
    www.raising-reagan.com

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  5. Orange County is not used to this 50 degree weather! It's cooooold!

    I'm so sorry about your grandma :(

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  6. So sorry to hear about your Grandma! My Grandfather (Dad's Dad) had Alzheimer's and near the end he was aggressive and paranoid/fearful too. We didn't experience it too much as he lived about 16 hrs away and we only saw him twice a year but I know my Dad found it hard. I worry sometimes about whether my Dad will end up the same way :(

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  7. I'm sorry to hear about the struggles with your grandma! Sending lots of hugs and prayers.

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  8. one of my best friends mom had Alzheimer's...so painful for everyone! oh hang in there..sad for everyone.

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  9. I am sorry to hear about your grandma.

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  10. I'm so sorry about your grandmother. My dad actually has Alzheimer's, and moved into an adult family home last fall. It's been an incredibly difficult and painful transition, and watching him deteriorate is heartbreaking. Especially because he's only 63 years old.

    The best advice I can give at the moment (since my family and I are still in the throes of it ourselves) is to seek out people you can talk to about it. It really doesn't help to bottle it up and not talk about it. Trust me - I know. That's why every once in a while a big fat blog post on how evil Alzheimer's is will pop up on my blog. ;)

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  11. Aww I'm so sorry. :( I went through that with my grandpa too. It's so hard to watch and it hurts to realize sometimes there really isn't anything you can do. When it got to the point that my grandpa needed to be put in a home it was sad but it took a lot of the stress off my mom and grandma who were the people the majority of the work fell to. Enjoy your time together as best you can and my best advice is to just try to accept them for what they are at that moment. I was happier when I finally realized that and wasn't hoping to get glimpses of my old grandpa instead of just enjoying time together as it was. Lots of hugs.

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  12. I'm so sorry! :-( My hubby's grandpa has Alzheimer's and it has progressed pretty significantly since I have known him for three years. It's really sad!

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  13. I'm so sorry about your grandmother. I know that has to be difficult. My father-in-law has dementia and while it hasn't progressed to the point that he doesn't know us anymore, it is still heart wrenching to slowly lose someone you love. Especially someone so young. I hope decisions can be made without too much stress or heartache.

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  14. My gramps had it. :( It was pretty quick in that year it progressed to being violent and angry....soon after he passed. He said things and did things that broke my heart but I knew it wasn't really him. He had to go live in a nursing home due to the increase in violence & with his meds. It was so hard. I am so very sorry.

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  15. Your poor grandma! I worry about old people all the time. I don't know how they make it through later life as well as the do!

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  16. Ive been around alzheimers before. One lady that used to live in the home my aunt did was nice one minute then yelling/threatening the next. My great uncle and great grandpa both had it too. I only saw them a few times and they would tell old stories. But had no I dea who I was. I was little with great grandpa and a teenager when I saw my great uncle in their facilities. Its a rough thing.

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  17. I'm a couple hours north of you and loving that the weather is getting warmer! I hope you have a great weekend. :)

    So sorry about your grandma. Sending lots of good thoughts and hugs your way.

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