It happened...

1.16.2013

There is nothing that can prepare you for the first time IT happens. You can watch other people, read parenting books, talk strategies through with your spouse, and even see it dealt with on Super Nanny. You can imagine how you'd deal with it but until you're there, you can't really imagine...

What is IT that I'm talking about? The moment when you realize your child has channeled the devil and he's staying for a while.

This morning my child lost her shiz. I have seriously never seen anything like it. She screamed, spit, hit, wailed, flopped, coughed and screeched for 45 full minutes. She did not take a break or pause for a moment. She made sounds that I didn't know a two year old was capable of. She was launching herself at me making primal animal sounds that I've never heard before. Her eyes were filled with a wild insanity.... For 45 full minutes.

I am not exaggerating when I say that I have never seen anything like this fit that she threw. I don't even know what set her off but she was FILLED with rage and frustration that she could not work through.

I stood my ground but I don't know if I handled it properly. Should I have let it go? She clearly could not work through her feelings. By letting it escalate the way that it did, did I just open Pandora's box? Is this going to become the norm for fits now that she's seen that she can take it up a notch or twenty?

Parenting is hard.

(Anyone have a recommendation for a good toddler (almost 3 year old) tantrum book?)


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24 comments:

  1. It has happened to us all! Way to hang in there. I am sure you handled the tantrum just fine. Good work!

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  2. Awwwwwwwwwwwww lady, Im so sorry, that does not sound fun. I don't have kids, but I say good for you holding your ground. She will learn.

    xoxo

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  3. Ugh parenting is rough!

    Happy Wednesday!

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  4. Cray K is very young but I'm already dealing with some pretty crazy tantrums. I have a book that you absolutely should NOT read b/c it's dumb- The Happiest Toddler on the Block...the happiest baby on the block was fantastic so I thought this one might have good stuff in it, too. Nope.

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  5. I'm not a parent so I can't help you here, but I know that you are a great mama! I do not envy the job of a parent at all! Hang in there girl!

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  6. When my stepdaughter used to throw those kinds of tantrums we would ignore her. If we were somewhere with other people we would remove her from their site. Once she realized she wasn't going to get attention the tantrums got shorter and eventually went away. But I SO feel for you right now because they are NOT fun to go through.

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  7. I don't have kids, but I would've put her in a room and shut the door. Hope this phase doesn't last too long.

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  8. Were you at home? I wouldn't have a clue what to do, but I find reading stories like these MIGHT prepare me for my future.

    Or not. We'll see!

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  9. Omg.... I know this is my future! Ahhhh!

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  10. Oh no! I have experienced some epic meltdowns with my niece and nephew. It's not fun at all.

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  11. This made me laugh so hard! But I don't know why I'm laughing because I know my turns coming, Ekk! I'd say this is normal. I have 5 nieces and nephews and oh the stories I've heard from my sisters ;) I'm sure you did just fine!

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  12. Oh no! Those fits are never fun. I used to stand my ground with my son when he threw fits. It does go away, it probably is just a phase or a one time thing. Parenting is hard if you're doing it right. Trust me.

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  13. Oh my. I wish I had something to tell you. Those tantrums are the worst. Ick.

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  14. wow, thats not fun!! the sad thing is, can you imagine being in her shoes not knowning how to explain why she's mad? you are a strong person. i would have probably lost it myself in reaction to her actions!

    how was she afterwards?

    my neice is 5 and i'm completely convinced she has the devil in her too. my s-i-l deals with things like this every single day. shes tried everything under the sun and nothing works!

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  15. Oh wow.. I am so not prepared for this..... *big stares and wide eye blinks*

    xoxo
    Nike O.
    www.eighthundredsqft.com

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  16. Reagan pulled one of those the other night. She DID NOT want to go to bed and daddy (my first mistake) put her to bed that night! He forgot to brush her teeth and have her go potty. So ... was I shocked when ten minutes later she is screaming for me from upstairs? I get her up, have her go potty and then pull the toothpaste and toothbrush out which was met with an onslaught of temper tantrums! I put her in bed and let her scream for about ten minutes until I went back upstairs, made her sit down and listen to what I had to say. Thankfully it was resolved in a matter of minutes but still...holy hell! Stay away demon!

    xoxo
    Lanaya
    www.raising-reagan.com

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  17. Happy Wednesday! This is reason 73697 I am so not ready for kids. I seriously have no freaking clue what I would do.

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  18. Oh my gosh Leah threw a fit just like that today!! Her head was spinning around I swear. Worst fit EVER! I just ignored her and she eventually went up to her room and closed the door and put herself down for a nap!!! Sooooo stressful though! And she was freaking the baby out too which made me even more annoyed! UGH ;)

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  19. Just wanted to stop by and let you know I'm a new follower from the walkabout. Following via GFC

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  20. Aww...I can picture the pitiful-ness...I feel for both of you!

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  21. All the books by Dr. T. Berry Brazelton are wonderful! To me he is the top expert. Hi Jaime, glad to see your blog! I will follow and you can follow mine---Aunt Rose Lefebvre

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  22. Oh goodness mamma! I do not see how you did not pull your hair out.. Lord knows I would have 45 minutes later. I hope she calmed her tots after that cray cray fit!

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  23. I WISH I had some words of wisdom for you...I wish someone would have some words of wisdom for me! BUT I can assure you that it will pass, maybe not this week or even this month (which may seem like forever!) but one day you will realize that you just went 1 whole week without a single nightmare tantrum. Good Luck!

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  24. OMG. I am waiting for that moment too! I know it's going to happen. It happens to every one!! At least it was at home. Scared for the "we're at Walmart" tantrum. From my perspective, I think it's good that you let her work through it. But, like I said, it hasn't happened here yet. I'll let you know if I can follow through on my own ideas!!

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